Expectations. Crowds. Obligations. Family Issues. Loneliness. Money. That wonderful holiday season is here again. Will yours be filled with joy, good company, relaxation and time off work? Or, will it be filled with stress, too little time, over spending, over eating and wishing it were all over with? Holidays can be a big relapse trigger, so today is a great day to set yourself up to succeed. How? Just say No!
Just say No to parties you have no interest in going to, that gathering that ends up in a fight every year, gift exchanges you can't afford and any other obligation you feel pressured in to. For some people, being alone is depressing. For some people, depressing is attending a dinner gathering of married couples when solo. Couples may prefer holiday alone time to enjoy each other's company minus the crowd. Feel free to stay home or go where you feel happiest. That may be a crowded theater, your favorite restaurant or some precious at home time off work with zero 'to do' items. You really don't have to be, go or do anything you don't want to. This year, commit to saying No to everything you don't have a heartfelt interest in doing. The secret to having a fun, relaxing, wonderful holiday is giving yourself permission to do Only Things That Are Fun, Relaxing And Wonderful to You!
Relax. You may have time off work, or time off family as they are out shopping and visiting and so forth. Take some well deserved time for You, whatever you want to do with it! Reach out. Call people you care about and want to spend time with. Meet for coffee, wrap presents together, catch a movie, go for a walk, have a nice holiday breakfast. A long holiday weekend means you can connect with friends your work schedules may not usually allow for. Married, single or somewhere in between, there are always ways to share the spirit of the season in a manner that is meaningful to You. You may want to just hang out in your house alone for once and relax - it is up to you!
Plan ahead. Think about about how you want to spend your time and your money, how you really feel about crowded malls, stressful obligations and so forth:
- The most relaxing enjoyable things I could do this year are:
- One thing I will say No to this year:
- One thing I will be sure to do for Me this year:
- To reduce stress I will:
- To enjoy my time off I will:
- One person I will be sure to reach out to:
- One thing I am not getting pressured into this year:
- I give myself permission to:
- I commit to keeping my quit my first priority. If I feel tempted, I will:
- As far as dieting or not dieting, I am going to:
Enjoy. By actively choosing to have a wonderful holiday, you can reduce stress and relapse triggers. By learning to say No to things that you feel pressured or obligated to do, you will be saying Yes to an enjoyable and rewarding holiday season. This year, give yourself a gift ~ the gift of Happiness:)
Happy Holidays, and KTQ!
Master Certified Tobacco Treatment Specialist
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In lieu of a regular blog this week, please enjoy the following links and quotes about expressing gratitude in our lives, as well as the history of the Thanksgiving holiday tradition.
Gratitude fills our lives with positive energy and brings more things to be grateful for towards us. So what is gratitude? Here is a definition, courtesy of Wikipedia.org: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gratitude
Feeling grateful affects us in a positive way: http://abcnews.go.com/Health/science-thankfulness/story?id=15008148
What are you grateful for today? Who do you appreciate? Make a list and add to it every month, then read your list next year at this time. Tell those you care about that you are grateful they are in your life!
"He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has." ~Epictetus
"Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it." ~William Arthur Ward
"Two kinds of gratitude: The sudden kind we feel for what we take; the larger kind we feel for what we give." ~Edwin Arlington Robinson
"We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures." ~Thornton Wilder
Thanksgiving is celebrated on the fourth Thursday in November. For many, it is a day spent with family and friends, eating turkey, cranberry sauce, stuffing, mashed potatoes with gravy, warm bread rolls, apple pie and other delicious food. Thanksgiving Day is a tradition dating back hundreds of years. Here is a definition of the history of Thanksgiving, courtesy of Wikipedia.org: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thanksgiving_(United_States)
Thanksgiving is a time to reflect and be grateful. It is also a time for giving. Giving your time, attention, money, food, clothing or help to someone less fortunate is another great way to celebrate the spirit of Thanksgiving.
Be grateful for all the wonderful things in your smoke free life, and have a happy Thanksgiving Day!
Vikki Chavez CTTS-M
Master Certified Tobacco Treatment Specialist
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